Assumptions is the lowest level of knowledge and it is only next to its twin brother – guessing’ – Olakunle Soriyan
I cringe each time I sit in another meeting of rules and regulations for men and women and I wonder what we need to do to fix people because rules don’t fix men. Unfortunately, errors that go through the mouth of the respected and the revered easily pass for truth.
One thing I am grateful for is your willingness to think through all I have been sharing and even challenge my thoughts and submissions. At least, we are gradually raising a generation that doesn’t take things without asking questions.
The next generalization is MEN ARE NATURALLY ADULTEROUS – I have heard too many women talk about this and it makes me wonder where that information came from. Loads of women have also resigned themselves to this reality and one woman even bought her husband a pack of condom as a birthday gift. I just have a few questions to ask this morning:
– How many men have you experienced compared to the population of men globally?
If all the men you are meeting are adulterous, may we also find out the magnet in you that attracts that kind of men to you?
I am aware that our men are troubled, but it is not enough to lump all men into the same pool and assume every man is adulterous. A deep study will show us that men with dysfunctional sexuality were mostly boys whose sexuality became dysfunctional in their formative or teenage years.
Generalizations are not total falsehood, the only problem is that some of them have outlived their usefulness. Some of what we have held as truth in the 21st century was very valid and useful in the stone age, but some are no longer relevant and that is why I often tell my audience that the only thing worth standing for is TRUTH.
The next generalization is a bit controversial and that is ‘If you don’t marry a Christian, the devil becomes your father inlaw’.
Now, as much as I subscribe to beliefs and values’ compatibility, I would never fall for blanket statements that seek to ascribe the fatherhood of Satan to others simply because they don’t believe in what I believe. Truth is not everyone will become Christians, Muslims or even subscribe to what I believe, but good marriages have been built on the strength of sound knowledge, love for humanity and respect for others. The only reason people perish is for lack of KNOWLEDGE, not for lack of belonging to a religion.
I have sadly counselled tongue-talking wife beaters and ordained ‘criminals’; who then is their father in-law? The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom and I have met people who don’t believe what I believe, who love God.
Man is not God and man must never become ‘hell accreditation officers’. Even Jesus said ‘I have some other sheep in other sheep pens that you know nothing about’.
We must carefully equip people to build a desirable marriage centred on the fear of God, trust and sound knowledge.
Human beings get married, not religions.
I honour you.