She fell in love with you because she saw in you, a caring man, a Godly man, a man with a heart of gold, a man who will forever cherish her and so on. In fact, she chose you from amongst her ‘toasters’ and suitors because she believed you’re the best. She gave you her heart and love because she thinks you deserve them.
When you were dating her, you showered her with so much affection and gifts; you were always taking her to one joint or the other, one social gathering or another and you were always giving her the impression that her presence gives you happiness. You were changing her wardrobe almost every three months and you helped her with domestic chores – this was before you became married.
And suddenly, you married her, few months or years after marriage, those things you were doing for her during the time of courtship began to dwindle. You no longer take her out, you no longer change her wardrobe and you even find it difficult to smile when she’s around you… hehehe…you’re looking for trouble o.
Women are fragile and their thinking is sometimes ‘one way traffic’ and that is why when she feels this way about you, it’s difficult to change that feeling. It’s quite unfortunate that some men would proudly say they’ll do everything they can to get a lady and when she finally falls for them, they bring out their true colour. Of what use will this behaviour be to your marriage?
I have noticed that one of the reasons most relationships hit the rocks is simply because of the man’s change of attitude towards the wife. I know that circumstances also contribute to this, but in most cases it’s not about circumstances, but your attitude. You believe she’s now your own property and as a result nobody can take her away from you – it’s a lie!
Go out there, you’ll find so many men whose wives have been snatched from them by other men. Every woman needs an assurance from her man that she’s in safe hands, that you can take care of her and most importantly, you’ll LOVE her.
If you were making love to her seven times a week before, make sure you maintain that, or find a way to make her understand why it’s not or can no longer be so, otherwise you leave her with the feeling of regrets. And when this starts happening, her love for you will gradually diminish. You may not notice it on time because it’s only but a gradual process, but when it continues; one day, you just wake up to see that your marriage has crashed.
Don’t let that happen; change the tone of your marriage.
I’ll be back again next edition!