I have been learning about family systems for several years and in this series, I shall be sharing with you for the first time something that I believe will transform our entire nation and world if well followed with an open mind, because the key to transforming the entire world resides with the family.
I have taken a long, hard look at everything we all complain about. From a cheating husband to a corrupt politician; from a fraudulent salesman to a manufacturer of fake drugs; from a hypocritical leader to a wife beating husband; from a serial killer to an armed robber and come to the conclusion that something is wrong with the family systems across the world, because if our families had been properly built, we would have dealt with some of these crises.
I see everyone pretend that all is well when there is fire on the mountain, because we all want to create an impression to others so we all suffer in silence; but our silent hypocrisy has not helped us as manifested in the damage we have done to ourselves. Religion has delivered to us a selfish and personalized prosperity as well at the expense of community prosperity. So, our dog eats another to get by, thereby breeding heartbreaks and hatred everywhere.
– What if we could rebuild a family system that works?
– What if every man becomes subjected and accountable to the family system?
– What if we can all rediscover ourselves and be truly happy once again?
– What if singles could live their lives happily and be fulfilled without any form of cultural pressure?
Everyone complains about the decadence in our nation yet no one sees that the decadence in the nation is only a reflection of the corruption at the family level. The culture of impunity that we find in government is only a function of impunity at the family level. There is no way a man who considers himself bigger than his family would never become bigger than the nation when he becomes the President.
The bane of Nigeria is not corruption, the bane of Nigeria is a corrupt family system. A man that loots a nation’s treasury has been looting the family treasury. A man that is bigger than a nation is already bigger than his family.
The family institution is made up of father, mother and children and even in some cases, you have the extended family. No man or woman is supposed to be bigger than that institution, but what we have in most families is a larger than life money bag who suddenly assumes control because he/she brings in the money, which is not supposed to be so.
So, let’s quickly take a quiz to be sure your family is working:
– Do you know the exact spot the match box in your kitchen is?
– Can you pick up the location of your ATM card without struggling?
– Do you know the exact time your rice and garri is going to finish?
– Do you have a family value that is known to everyone in your home?
– Do you have a specific study plan for your kids outside school?
– Do you have a family vision that is known to all?
– Do you know the exact budget for your home for last month?
What level of thinking went into the placement of everything in your house?
The first proof that a family is dysfunctional is the obvious lack of order at first glance. How effective is your family?
I honour you.
To be continued.