Running a family is not as easy as running a nation, but it is one aspect most of us assume and that assumption has deprived us of the foundational preparation for leadership outside the home because the moment you can lead a family successfully without lording things over them, simply because you feel you have absolute powers, then you would have graduated from the school of meekness, which is the school of power under control.
– Domestic Management System – This is another system that helps you run an effective home because there is gross disorderliness in most homes. This system is what helps you know and track exactly what is happening in every aspect of your home. For example, this particular system is what determines the actual order you need to place for various foodstuffs and where to place them from as well as determining the re-order level for everything you consume and putting in place a system whereby your suppliers also have an idea of the actual period to restock your supplies.
This system helps you track the actual glass cups you have and what is broken, not because you want to be stingy, but because you want to be accountable. This system is what helps you track the activities of your domestic servants, if you have any. It is what determines the actual spot in the house where what key is kept and who does what on a daily basis.
Domestic management system is what determines the systems of compliance with your family culture as well as the punitive measure for whatever you do to upset the family structure. For example, daddy may have to mop the floor for the next 3 days for failure to keep the toothpaste in the right place.
Usually, it is tough to install a domestic management system for traditional families, but it makes your family run seamlessly the moment you put it in place. But it takes humility on the part of most men to allow this in their homes. How structured is your home?
Someone once buzzed me and said there is no African man that can implement what I have been sharing and that actually made me laugh because the African man is not actually the ideal man and if you don’t agree as well, let it be known that the American or British is not also the ideal man. God only created man in his image and how to live was clearly spelt out and the system that it takes to build the smallest nation that should produce the bigger nations. So, if you don’t process everything from this paradigm, you may actually end up becoming dysfunctional.
So, I responded to the person that the kingdom man is the man we all need to become because that man submits to God even when it is not convenient and serves his family. He is a man who has dropped tribal and traditional sentiments to take on the yoke of the kingdom culture, which is totally different from cultural practices.
He is a man who seeks to fact – find the reason behind every cultural practice and drops the ones that doesn’t make sense or how do you explain that a culture ties down the destiny of a matured girl who is ready for marriage simply because her intended spouse is not able to produce 500k as bride price, hiding under the pretence of culture. The question I ask is who determines and upgrades this culture? Because how the same culture that collected cowries has now graduated to dollars beats me and how the same cultural gods that accepted palm wine and tubers of yam 40 years ago have rebranded to red wine and Baileys is beyond me?
You want 500k as bride price on a girl and because of that you would not allow her marry, yet unknown to you, the guy had actually slept with her severally and this your daughter has never opened up to you. So, if the guy moves on with his life, who loses?(This is not to enforce pre-marital sex).
Culture is man-made, but there is a culture that we can create from the character of God that is fair to all concerned. I am not against culture, but where culture hinders the happiness and the laudable intention of a human being, then culture has to be checked and scrutinized so that we can appreciate the intention (which is mostly selfish) and set people free to fulfill God’s mandate for their lives.
What is the source of your cultural beliefs?